Saturday, February 19, 2011
Just when you thought you had it all figured out, there came along another little glitch. I'm not talking about a gadget, or a puzzle, or a complicated recipe from your ancient mama's flan, rather, I'm talking about relationship. Or did you already guess that? Last night, as I jogged to the theatre to watch a junior production of Romeo and Juliet with my daughter acting as Juliet's young servant Sampson, I saw John giving his girlfriend a hug goodbye. He just got a promotion at work, and was out celebrating with friends. He and she were standing in front of his Subaru Forester, hugging, then dis-embraced. He left her standing there under the street lamp. I saw the whole thing. Thoughts i'm not proud of ran through my head, revealing my fallible inner soul. I wanted to say hey, i'm his x-wife, or tell her my name and watch for her reaction. Why should I be upset, why should I care? He and I haven't been together for over four years now. Instead, I slowed down to catch a glimpse. I hadn't met her yet, I suppose there just hasn't been the opportunity. He could have invited her to the play, and introduced me to her afterward, but he left her in front of the Subaru. I wanted to say, you may be 30 and beatiful and have a perfect body, but I am strong and an amazing woman and I had to put up with John's lack of attention for over 15 years...I am the mother of our children. You don't have what I have. I wanted to say why would you date someone 15 years older than you? Do you know what you're signing up for? Does he treat you the way he treated me? Why is it that men can date much younger women? I tried dating younger men, but found the disparity of knowledge and maturity to be far to vast. If we find one that is mature at 10 years our junior, then of course they want children and are only 10 or 15 years older than your child. It just doesn't work for us.